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Archive for the ‘Parental Rights’ Category

HB 93 Will Take Us Back to the Bad Old Days

Posted on May 10th, 2017 by The Red Headed Lawyer

Back in 1970, Texas became one of the first states to offer couples a less confrontational, less expensive way to end a failed marriage. It was known as “No Fault” Divorce, and many at the time believed it would be a disastrous social experiment with American families. However, there is evidence now suggesting that rather than encouraging divorce, the long term effect of this option has been to make divorces less frequent.

During the 1970s and into the early 1980s, divorce rates did rise as each state eventually passed legislation to offer some kind of no fault option. In economic terms, you could say there was pent-up demand that was suddenly being satisfied by the change in laws.

One common measure of divorce rates is the number of divorces per 1,000 people. From about 4.6 per 1,000 in 1970, divorces in the US rose throughout the decade, peaking in 1981 at about 6.9 per thousand. Since then, the numbers have steadily declined, dropping to 4.0 per 1,000 in 2000 and just 3.2 today. Here in Texas, we are fortunate to have a divorce rate below the national average at 2.7 per 1,000.

Clearly, this is one of those rare occurrences where it’s good to be below average!

Texas House Bill 93 (and a companion bill that lengthens the waiting period from 60 to 180 days) would undo years of progress on dealing with divorces in the state and bring us back to the bad old days. If this Bill becomes law, couples whose marriages have failed will no longer be able to claim the no-fault option of “insupportability” – basically another way of saying irreconcilable differences. Instead, they will need to file using one or more of the fault-based grounds – adultery, abandonment, cruelty, felony conviction, living apart for three years or confinement to a mental hospital.

In my opinion, this Bill would be a disaster for Texas couples. They are already going through one life’s most stressful events. Now, they will be forced to adopt a confrontational approach and air their dirty laundry in public. Kids will be forced to take sides with all the long-term hurt and emotional baggage such conflict would sow.

And what about the parents? Should they be penalized for admitting that they are no longer compatible? Currently, it is estimated that as many as 90% of divorces in Texas are filed on no-fault grounds. Eliminating this option will make divorces much more expensive as one party will have to prove malfeasance as described above. This could entail the hiring of private investigators, expert witnesses, and the like. These proceedings will also take much more time to complete, which will also run up the bills.

But it’s not just about money. For women (and men) who are in abusive relationships, a no-fault divorce can be the only way out. After years in such a destructive relationship, the abused party will likely be very reluctant and afraid to report the partner to authorities, which would be required in an at-fault divorce. There is more data supporting current law – since no fault divorces became common, studies show female suicide has dropped 8 – 15%, domestic murder is down 10%, and domestic violence (for male and females) has fallen as much as 30%. Also, given the inevitable rise in costs that would ensue, would divorce become an option only for the wealthy?

There are many groups that support this change in law, but I can tell that as an attorney, I do not support it. Kids will suffer, parents and their families will suffer, and what if people lose their jobs and careers? How would this development help the lives of those involved?

If you have any questions on this or any other family law matter, please feel free to contact us here at the Essex Law Firm.

Recognizing Signs of Child Abuse and Neglect

Posted on April 7th, 2014 by The Red Headed Lawyer

Anytime you leave your child in the care of someone else, a part of you is always concerned with whether or not they are being cared for properly. This is especially true when your child is not old enough to speak, or can clearly tell you what is going on while they are away.

When your circumstances make it necessary for you to take your child to day care, or hire a babysitter, it important for you to be observant of the way your child is being handled while you are there.

It is also important to regularly examine your child physically, as well as take note of their mood when you are taking them to day care, and their mood after you pick them up. If your child suddenly becomes sad or reclusive when the baby sitter arrives, or when you arrive at day care, it could be a sign of deeper issues.

Some of the most common signs of child abuse or neglect include:

  • Unexplained changes in behavior
  • Withdrawal
  • Cuts and scrapes
  • Bruises
  • Burns
  • Feelings of fear

In some cases, children can be abused or neglected while visiting a parent as part of a custody agreement. This can be extremely detrimental to the child because the child is being harmed by someone that he or she trusts. If it is discovered that your child is being abused or neglected by the other parent, you may be able to have the abusive parent’s visitation rights stripped or restricted. It is, however, difficult to prove abuse without hard evidence such as medical records. Keep in mind that the child can’t tell the court what is going on and you cannot report to any court what the child says. If you suspect abuse, take your child for a medical exam immediately. Even a day’s delay may hamper proof in restricting the other parent’s visitation rights.

When your child’s safety and well-being is threatened, it is important to take action immediately. With the help of a family law attorney in Spring, TX, you can get an accurate assessment of your legal options, and pursue justice for the wrongs that have been committed against your child.