Find Us On Facebook Follow Us On Twitter Connect With Us On Linked In
Connect With Us On Google Plus Setup a Skype Consultation Review us on Yelp
Watch our YouTube videos

Archive for the ‘Lawyer’ Category

How to Find An Affordable Divorce Attorney in Spring

Posted on November 28th, 2016 by The Red Headed Lawyer

Finding an affordable divorce attorney in Spring (or anywhere) can be a difficult and time-consuming process. Stress levels are often already sky high during the breakup of a marriage, making the research and consultations even more frustrating. Everyone just wants to move forward and get closure.

And it’s no wonder – the legal tradition of collecting an up-front payment from clients and spending it as needed is so unlike what people normally do. Consider that before you even walk into a store to buy shoes, or sign on to Amazon to order a video game, you have a pretty good idea of how much your items will cost. And by the time you check out, you know exactly what you have purchased and how much you spent. With legal services, it’s usually a black box where you shovel money in and wait for results.

(Maybe a black hole is a better description.)

At the Essex Law Firm, we understand what people need from their attorneys during stressful times. For 30 years, we have handled all types of sensitive issues with care, discretion and skill. In addition, most of our services have a fixed price so there is no “nickel and diming” and no surprises.

We are proud to differ from other traditional practices because of the three “Cs” – communication, consultation, and cost-effectiveness.

Communication – If we can’t reply immediately, we will answer all inquiries within 24 hours, period. And we will set up an email journal with you to facilitate communications so information/events pertinent to your case can be recorded quickly while the facts are still fresh.

Consultation – We offer a low fee initial consultation, which generally lasts one hour.  This enables us to get the facts of the case and your expectations while we get to know each other. Even if you don’t hire us, we make sure that you leave with valuable information about your case and the legal process.

Cost-Effectiveness – We are careful stewards of your money. During the initial consultation, we will give you our honest assessment on the legal remedies you seek, and tell you what it will cost. Most of our services (such as divorce, child custody, child support, and adoption) are fixed price so there are no surprises.

Unlike most law practices, we also offer a payment plan. This way, you know the exact total cost of our service, the down payment, and the monthly installment. Please visit our website for more details on our payment plan.

We are completely transparent about our fees and payment schedules. Because we value your business and want you to get the best result possible, we are also happy to help you save time (and possibly money) as your case progresses. As the affordable family legal firm here in Spring, we are happy to share a few hints on how to keep your legal expenses down and everything moving forward:

First, read my September 21 “Don’t Forget the Details” blog. There are many steps you can take prior to a divorce that will make your proceedings less complicated. By closing certain accounts, dividing memberships appropriately and handling some obligations in advance, there will be less to negotiate later. This usually translates into a faster resolution at a lower cost.

Also, be sure to complete any legal paperwork or requests for documents as quickly as you can. Delays in providing information to opposing counsel can throw off filing and court appearance dates, which will delay your case and possibly increase its cost.

If you have non-urgent questions, try to consolidate and submit them periodically rather than one at a time. I can tell you that it’s much easier to focus on a given case and address multiple related issues at the same time.

Lastly, make sure you are organized. Keep notes about what you sent and when, and save copies of everything (including emails.)

At the Essex Law Firm, we take our goal of providing quality, affordable family law services very seriously. Please feel free to contact us for an initial consultation.

How to Make the Divorce Process as Easy as Possible

Posted on September 22nd, 2015 by The Red Headed Lawyer


Divorce isn’t easy. Typically, it’s a long, emotional and drawn out time in your life that you never imagined would be a part of your story.

While we all agree that getting a divorce isn’t easy – there are several ways that we can make the divorce process easier.

Communicate with your Ex

Sounds crazy, right? But having an open line of communication with your ex can allow you to have an easier divorce. Whether the communication is done via email, phone or through your lawyer, it will help in several ways:

  • Saves you money
  • Keeps the divorce moving forward
  • Maintains your integrity

While every situation is unique, I recommend that you set boundaries when it comes to communicating with your ex during the divorce; I would never want anyone in a situation that they don’t need to be in. With certain divorces, some couples shouldn’t communicate except through a lawyer. For example, DO NOT use this advice if you feel that your spouse is so controlling, you could possibly enter into an agreement that you don’t really want.

Plan ahead for child custody

If children are part of the divorce, try to plan ahead on what makes the most sense for your family while keeping your children’s best interests in your mind. Think about schedules and schooling in order to arrange the best custody agreement for them. Having a jointly agreed upon idea will help move the custody portion along while keeping things easy for you. Remember, children psychologically see themselves as one-half of each parent. Parents who work together to maintain this whole for their children will see healthier, happier children who will transition much more easily through the divorce process.

Let it go

Assets, relationships and your old life are things of the past. Being able to emotionally let all of these things go will save you time and energy throughout the divorce process. It’s difficult to split the house, cars, and debt that have accumulated over the years, but it is part of the entire process.

Prepare yourself to detach from people and things, prior to the divorce becoming final, so you can move on quicker.

Hire a divorce lawyer

Having someone that you can trust, that supports your best interests, gives you a peace about the entire process. Divorce lawyers know the ins and outs of what you’re going through and are there to help you.

A divorce lawyer understands the process and can handle the courts of law much better than if you were to represent yourself. More than any other time, this is the time that you need an advocate, somebody who knows the law and at the same time is looking out for your best interest. Some of the biggest legal disasters are do-it-yourself divorces which basically have to be redone later, costing more in both time, money and stress. Save the DIY for home projects.

Take time for yourself

One of the most important things to remember during your divorce is to take time for yourself. I tell my clients to do whatever it takes to relax. Plan a weekend getaway or a spa weekend, to keep your mind off of the divorce.

Making the divorce process easier will not only speed things up, but it will give you a peace during one of the most unsettling moments in your life.

Divorce Attorney for Males

Posted on October 31st, 2013 by The Red Headed Lawyer

Contrary to popular belief, when men go through divorces, they experience many of the same devastating emotions that women do. Some of these emotions can include anger, contempt, sadness, shame, or frustration.

Aside from the emotional pain of a divorce, men often feel concerned about what will happen to their assets as a result of the impending divorce. Naturally, a man who has worked hard to carve out a comfortable life for the family will want to protect what he has earned.

While going through a divorce, many men believe that the best lawyer for their case is an aggressive lawyer who will handle the case with a ferocious approach. However, sometimes having an attorney who is subtle and comes off as compassionate can make all the difference in the outcome of a divorce case.

So is it better for a male attorney to be represented by a tenacious male attorney, or a stern but likable female attorney?

Truthfully speaking, the gender of your attorney doesn’t matter nearly as much as his or her ability to provide you with quality legal representation and his or her ability to gain your trust. No matter what your attorney’s gender is, if he or she is unable to adequately perform the job, or if you do not trust the attorney, you will more than likely find yourself unsatisfied with the outcome of your divorce.

Most importantly, individuals should understand there is no substitute for a qualified family law attorney, who will work tirelessly to ensure that your side of the story is presented in a way that will give you the best chance of getting your desired outcome.

Choosing The Right Lawyer

Posted on June 12th, 2013 by The Red Headed Lawyer

When involved in a serious legal dispute most people know the first thing they should do is contact a lawyer. However, many people struggle with choosing the right one. Choosing the right lawyer is often times the most important factor in determining the outcome of legal disputes, so needless to say, a good amount of time and research should be invested in finding the best lawyer for you.

The first step in finding a good lawyer is to determine the type of lawyer you need. In most states, a licensed attorney may practice in any field of law, but most concentrate on very specific areas. Most states also have a process of specialization for attorneys. In the past, most lawyers were general practitioners, meaning that they handled cases in a wide variety of areas. Over time, the number of lawyers grew and our society spread out, and it became common for lawyers to concentrate their efforts. There are almost as many different practice areas as there are lawyers. For example, a lawyer who practices admiralty law might not be the best attorney to assist a person needing a divorce.

The next step you should take is to utilize referral sources. One of the best resources to find a lawyer that does the kind of law you need is through other lawyers. Everyone should know at least one lawyer they could call and ask for a referral. Even if the lawyer you know practices criminal law and you need someone to prepare a will, the criminal lawyer will be able to give you some referrals in the practice area you need.

You can also look online to research lawyers in the area you need. The Internet is an extremely beneficial source of locating a lawyer. Many websites maintain directories of lawyers nationwide. Most law firms these days maintain websites and usually you can find those through any search engine. Often lawyers are active in professional or community organizations which may be featured on a website.

Next, you should meet in person with a couple of lawyers. The initial interview with an attorney that you are considering hiring is extremely important. Take with you to the interview all of the documents and other information that relates to your problem. Don’t be afraid to ask your lawyer about his or her credentials, as well as how many cases he or she has handled that are similar to yours.

The last thing you should do is to establish reasonable expectations. Many people have never dealt with a lawyer before, so they don’t know what to expect. You should expect frank, honest advice. Your lawyer should point out the strong and weak points of your case and give you a realistic expectation of the potential outcomes. She should keep you informed and send you copies of documents pertaining to your case. If a lawyer gives you a guaranteed result, turn and run. Lawyers are prohibited from guaranteeing any particular outcome, so be very leery if this happens. Don’t expect your lawyer to act as a psychologist, financial advisor, tax planner, or to give any other advice outside of her expertise. If you need advice in other areas, consult a professional in that area.

Why divorce rates have increased over the years

Posted on June 7th, 2013 by The Red Headed Lawyer

Original Article for

“Half of all marriages end in divorce” has been a widely accepted idea for many years. Statistically speaking how accurate is that idea? Well, as it turns out, it’s right on the money. Over the last 40 years, roughly 50% of the marriages in the U.S. have ended in divorce. However, the percentage of marriages ending in divorce hasn’t always been so high.

“Before 1970, divorce was relatively uncommon and difficult to get. Fault was usually required. One of the spouses must have committed a crime or sin that justified the divorce. There needed to be adultery, abandonment, cruelty, intoxication or some other reason that made it necessary to end the marriage.”

So what changed? Simply put, the law.

“No-fault divorce became an option in some states in the 1950s. Couples no longer needed to prove that one person was at fault. They could simply say that the marriage had broken down. By 1970, almost all states had laws allowing no-fault divorces. A long separation before the divorce used to be mandatory. Many states also passed laws that greatly decreased the separation time, making divorce easier and faster. These laws had a great effect on the divorce rate. From 1940 to 1965, the divorce rate remained near 10 divorces for every 1,000 married women. By 1979, the rate had doubled.”

The changes in the laws regarding divorce dramatically shortened the time and effort an unhappy spouse needed to put forth in order to get a divorce. This had a monumental impact on divorce rates. With laws that are still being revamped, and the ongoing changes in sociological views on divorce, many believe that divorce rates will continue to rise.

How to Make Divorce Easier On Your Children

Posted on May 22nd, 2013 by The Red Headed Lawyer

Sometimes in the aftermath of a divorce, spouses can get so caught up in their own quarrel that they don’t realize what chaotic situation they are putting their children in. After all, hearing both parents constantly degrade one another is sure to impact the child’s views on both parents. For children, they can sometimes get the feeling that they have just went through their own divorce; they feel like they are slowly losing one of their parents.

You have built a family centered on a consistent two-parent system, and changing something that your children have grown used to will be undoubtedly stressful on them. While some stress may be unavoidable, a great deal of it can be avoided. There are things you can do or refrain from doing, to limit the amount of stress and negative effects your children have to endure.

You should avoid confiding in your children about adult concerns and disagreements with your spouse. If you have a dispute with your ex-spouse, don’t expose your children to your conflicts and frustration. Doing so could lead to your child having negative thoughts about their other parent, and could make them feel like they have to pick sides. You should also avoid interrogating your child about the other parent or what goes on at the other parent’s house. It’s normal to ask general questions about your child’s time there, but you shouldn’t pry. Encourage your children to call the other parent when they have news or just want to talk. Keep the other parent informed about school events and other activities. Do as much as you can to show your children that their other parent will be a major part of their life moving forward.

Don’t introduce major changes into your child’s life if you can help it. Try to keep to your usual family routines and community ties. Consistency and structure makes people in general comfortable, this is especially true with children. If you can keep their life as close to status quo as possible, they won’t feel like their world is being flipped upside down. Continue to parent as you always have. You may feel guilty that your children have to cope with divorce, but you should resist the urge to be more lenient on them. They’ll feel more secure if you’re firm and consistent.

If you and your ex struggle to interact without hostility, it’s a good idea to consult a therapist. A family therapist or professional mediator can help you develop a more friendly communication style. Since you have years of co-parenting ahead of you, learning to get along with your ex may be the greatest gift you can give your child. If your child sees that his or her parents are able to interact in a cordial way, it will allow him to feel like everything is okay. It’s also a good idea to get help for a child that is having trouble coping with divorce. A young child may show regressive behavior like excessive clinginess or throwing temper tantrums, while an older child may become angry, withdrawn, or depressed. A therapist can provide a safe place for your child to express his or her feelings, which will go a long way in terms of coping.