Sometimes relationships cannot be salvaged. There are problems that cannot be resolved with therapy and an effort at better communication. Some people are incompatible at their core. Some relationships are violent and contaminated by drugs or alcohol, and some relationships have such a serious lack of trust that they cannot be restored. In these situations, divorce is often times the best option. Although divorce is difficult for children in any situation, it is worse to stay in a marriage that is destructive to your mental, physical, and spiritual well-being. Deciding to get a divorce is one of the most difficult decisions a person can make. If you have to make a difficult choice you should not beat yourself up over it. You are not a failure or a bad parent for choosing to end a destructive marriage. If you make the decision with thoughtfulness and an eye toward the larger implications, you should be considered brave. It is one of the most difficult situations you will ever face. It may seem as though your world is coming to an end, but you can survive and create a new and better life. The most important thing you need is faith in yourself. Divorce is an internal emotional battle as well as a conflict between two people. Some married partners manage to make the break amicably. When it is done this way you can present it to your children in a united way and there will be less stress in the way you work out the details of your ultimate separation. However, in reality, most divorces aren’t so friendly. Emotions will flare and blame and accusation will become the order of the day. Once the decision to separate has been made, human nature requires some kind of emotional distancing. This is why former lovers often become the bitterest of enemies. When you decide to end a marriage you may begin to second guess yourself. You may need some psychological help because divorce is one of the most stressful situations you will ever experience. You have to get used to the reality that someone you loved is no longer even a friend. Most importantly, you should take solace in the fact that you are doing it for the right reasons.