Author: redheadedlaw

Best Interest of the Child

Written by redheadedlaw on May 3, 2013. Posted in Child Custody, Divorce. No Comments on Best Interest of the Child

No matter how much you and the other parent try to resolve disputes in a mature fashion, it is a good possibility that the two of you aren’t going to completely agree on everything. It is imperative that these disagreements are handled in a productive fashion. Ideally, these matters can be resolved without the direct involvement of the courts. However, if forced to become involved, judges make decisions based on the best interests of the child. Generally, the best interests of the child include items like the physical and emotional safety of the child, as well as the child’s stability, security, and overall well-being. Courts generally determine that it’s in a child’s best interest to have a consistent, supportive relationship with each parent. This usually means that, if possible, both parents will have relatively equivalent parenting time and will share the decision-making responsibilities with the child. This will theoretically place the parents on equal footing. The fact that you may disagree with the parenting style of the other parent does not mean that you can force them to adapt to your preferences. It is important to recognize that each parent will generally have equal legal parenting rights. Although this sounds reasonable, problems, disagreements, and questions often arise. Who gets to determine what, and under what circumstances? What does “equal” decision-making actually mean? While court orders or parenting plans attempt to address all possible problems, it is impossible to anticipate every possible scenario that might arise. So how do these disputes get resolved? Hopefully, the two parents maintain a relationship that is functional enough to allow them to maturely discuss these issues and resolve them. Most court orders require that the parents attend mediation prior to either parent filing an action concerning a parenting time or decision-making dispute with the court. Afterwards, the parents can file an action with the court to address these matters. However, keep in mind that filing an action may lead to an outcome that isn’t ideal for one or both of the parents. Remember, parents working together tend to make the best decisions for their children.

When Divorce Is The Only Option

Written by redheadedlaw on April 24, 2013. Posted in Divorce. No Comments on When Divorce Is The Only Option

Sometimes relationships cannot be salvaged. There are problems that cannot be resolved with therapy and an effort at better communication. Some people are incompatible at their core. Some relationships are violent and contaminated by drugs or alcohol, and some relationships have such a serious lack of trust that they cannot be restored. In these situations, divorce is often times the best option. Although divorce is difficult for children in any situation, it is worse to stay in a marriage that is destructive to your mental, physical, and spiritual well-being. Deciding to get a divorce is one of the most difficult decisions a person can make. If you have to make a difficult choice you should not beat yourself up over it. You are not a failure or a bad parent for choosing to end a destructive marriage. If you make the decision with thoughtfulness and an eye toward the larger implications, you should be considered brave. It is one of the most difficult situations you will ever face. It may seem as though your world is coming to an end, but you can survive and create a new and better life. The most important thing you need is faith in yourself. Divorce is an internal emotional battle as well as a conflict between two people. Some married partners manage to make the break amicably. When it is done this way you can present it to your children in a united way and there will be less stress in the way you work out the details of your ultimate separation. However, in reality, most divorces aren’t so friendly. Emotions will flare and blame and accusation will become the order of the day. Once the decision to separate has been made, human nature requires some kind of emotional distancing. This is why former lovers often become the bitterest of enemies. When you decide to end a marriage you may begin to second guess yourself. You may need some psychological help because divorce is one of the most stressful situations you will ever experience. You have to get used to the reality that someone you loved is no longer even a friend. Most importantly, you should take solace in the fact that you are doing it for the right reasons.

How Divorce Affects Taxes

Written by redheadedlaw on April 17, 2013. Posted in Attorney, Divorce, IRS, Taxes. No Comments on How Divorce Affects Taxes

Taxes have a major impact on nearly every aspect of life, including divorce. However, some couples become so angry at one another, they lose sight of a common enemy, the International Revenue Service. For those who are considering, or are already in the process of getting a divorce, it is important to know what your tax filing status is determined by as it pertains to marriage and divorce. If your divorce was final anytime before December 31st, you must file as single or head of household for that year. If your divorce proceedings and paperwork aren’t complete by December 31st, then as far as the IRS is concerned, you are still married. In this case, you and your spouse can file your tax returns as married filing jointly. Under this filing status, you report all of your income together. This allows you to claim all the deductions, exemptions, or credits to which either or both of you are entitled. When deciding whether to file jointly, consider not only the resulting tax liability, but also the ramifications of being jointly liable for the taxes, penalties, and interest of your spouse. Because your divorce is still pending, you must consider the overall tax implications. Hiring a good family law attorney can be very beneficial with this process. With the use of a diligent divorce attorney and tax accountant you may be able to minimize your total tax liability and avoid being blindsided by tax penalties. Ignoring the tax consequences of a divorce could turn a seemingly fair settlement into one that is financially disastrous. The settlement agreement should be worded and calculated correctly, with the ultimate goal being to reduce the taxes paid by both spouses, leaving them both financially secure. With the right divorce attorney, this can all be accomplished. A good family law attorney will put the needs of the client first. He or she will take a step back and look at the total picture, and will understand that fighting blindly for the client isn’t what’s always what’s best for the client in the long run. A good family law attorney will understand that clients can sometimes let their emotions cloud their judgment, so they will help them make the best decisions for their client’s long term future. Choose the family law attorneys with the qualities you can trust. Lawyers play big roles in our lives, and the lawyer you choose to handle your divorce will obviously affect the course of your life as well as the lives of your family members. Taxes are inherently complicated, and can become outright confusing and stressful when marital status is changing. The right lawyer, who is well versed and able to guide you or refer you to tax experts as needed, can help the transition from being married to being divorced go as smoothly as possible.

Let’s Hire a Professional Divorce Attorney

Written by redheadedlaw on March 29, 2013. Posted in Attorney, Divorce, Harris County, Houston. No Comments on Let’s Hire a Professional Divorce Attorney

Recently, one of my colleague’s friends saw first-hand what it was like to try and get a divorce, without representation. She said at the courthouse there were many people who didn’t have representation, and almost all of their court dates were getting reset. They were getting reset because something wasn’t right in their paperwork, or in their divorce proceedings. One of the ladies there said her court date had been reset three times already. Luckily, my colleague’s friend had representation, and it was smooth sailing for her. This is first-hand witness of how and why it is important to hire a Spring TX divorce lawyer, because unless you have all the time in the world to the learn the system, drive downtown multiple times, and drag out the process, you may end up spending more time and money in stress than it’s worth, when you could of simply hired a professional divorce attorney.

Facebook used to charge father with failure to pay child support

Written by redheadedlaw on March 26, 2013. Posted in Child Support, Facebook. No Comments on Facebook used to charge father with failure to pay child support

Original Article by Alexa Valiente for ABCNews.com

Once again, Facebook was used to garner evidence against someone committing a crime. This time, it was a father who was three years behind in paying child support, which amounted to $5,400. Police were able to get a warrant to look at his page, which was initially set to private.

“With the pictures as evidence that Robinson had funds to pay for child support, an arrest warrant was issued for Robinson. If Robinson is eventually found guilty for failure to pay child support as well as other charges, he could face up to eleven years in prison.”

Alienation

Written by redheadedlaw on March 20, 2013. Posted in Child Custody. No Comments on Alienation

“Alienation” is becoming a frequent topic for family law attorneys. If you are not familiar with the term (as applied to family law), the best way to describe it is brainwashing. One parent “alienates” the child from the other parent by repeatedly and deliberately telling the child “bad” things about the absent parent. Telling the child “bad” things about the other parent, more often than not, in the opinion of the parent making the statements to the child, is “telling the child the truth.” The brainwashing parent will try to convince you that the child “should be told the truth.” Most psychologists will tell you that the psychological makeup of a child consists of the unspoken understanding that he or she is the product of both parents and thus hearing bad things about the other parent is internalized as bad things about the child himself or herself, whether the statements are true or not. Divorce parenting classes almost always emphasize that a parent should not make derogative statements about the other parent for that reason. It works long-term to eat away at the self-esteem of the child. It’s like your grandmother always told you, “If you can’t say anything good about someone, don’t say anything at all.”

Despite the understanding of most good parents and most professionals of its harm to children, alienation is one of the complaints I hear most often from parents. Unfortunately, it is always one of the hardest things to document and to get in front of a court, making it most frustrating because it is so hard to put a stop to. Hearsay testimony or testimony from children, and virtually any testimony from a child, except in child abuse cases, is not allowed.

We are starting to see cases in which at last the topic of alienation is seriously and carefully addressed, in spite of legal roadblocks thrown up. The latest and most visible case is a New York case in which the court reversed custody from mom to dad based on alienation. “This is the case that made national news last year when there was camera coverage of the tearful, almost hysterical, transfer of custody away from the mother, with whom the 5-year-old twins had lived the entirety of their life.” (Quote from Family Law Section of the State Bar of Texas recently.) The New York case has since been overturned because the appellate court believed the trial court leaned too heavily on expert testimony from various mental health professionals in making its decision.

Despite the fact that the New York case was overturned on appeal, it is important to note that the issue of alienation is becoming a topic, which is coming to the courts and that the courts take seriously. In my opinion, it is not soon enough. The damage which alienation does to children is a to-date hidden threat, one that causes many children serious emotional damage.

Children Of Divorced Parents Smoke More Studies Show

Study Finds That Children Of Divorce Are More Likely To Smoke

Written by redheadedlaw on March 15, 2013. Posted in Divorce, Health. No Comments on Study Finds That Children Of Divorce Are More Likely To Smoke

Journal Abstract posted on University of Toronto

A new study has shown a connection with children of divorced parents, and a tendency to smoke, as compared to their peers.

This University of Toronto study, published online this month in the journal Public Health, shows that men who experienced parental divorce before they turned 18 had 48-per-cent higher odds of ever smoking 100 or more cigarettes than men whose parents did not divorce. Women from divorced families were also at risk, with 39-per-cent higher odds of smoking in comparison to women from intact families.

They have yet to find a direct link between the two, but they have some theories.

From this study, researchers cannot determine why parental divorce is linked to smoking initiation. However, co-author Joanne Filippelli, a University of Toronto doctoral student, suggests it is possible that “children upset by their parents’ divorce may use smoking as a coping mechanism to regulate emotions and stress. Some research suggests this calming effect may be particularly attractive to those who have suffered early adversities.”

When considering a divorce, be sure to keep the physical and mental health of your children in mind.

Houston Divorce Attorney Reviews

Written by redheadedlaw on March 5, 2013. Posted in Attorney, Houston, Lawyer, Texas.

When searching for a lawyer and looking online at Houston divorce attorney reviews, keep important criteria in mind. These may include:

Experience

When hiring a family law attorney, see how many years of experience they have in family law. If they only have a few, then they may not have all the right knowledge to make proper decisions concerning your divorce. You want to feel comfortable with your Houston divorce attorney, and you want to make sure nothing negative will come back later on down the road.

Education

Make sure the divorce attorney you review has a thorough education from a reputable college and/or higher learning institution. You can review every attorney in the state of Texas at www.texasbar.com and see their bar card number, Texas license date, law school education, and public disciplinary history. Review Marivonne Essex at the State Bar of Texas

Honesty

Not every attorney can win every case, and not every case can be won, but you want to make sure your attorney is going to do what is best for you and your family, despite all odds. If you are reviewing an attorney and they say yes to everything, promising you the sun and the moon, you should walk away. If an attorney is straight forward with you on every detail, and even may say “your case has a slim chance”, then you know they are being honest with you and are not steering you in the wrong direction. Honest feedback can save you a lot of headache (and money) later on down the road.

Do It Yourself Forms Burden Lower Courts

Do-It-Yourself Divorce Forms Will Burden Lower Courts

Written by redheadedlaw on February 11, 2013. Posted in Attorney, Divorce, Texas. No Comments on Do-It-Yourself Divorce Forms Will Burden Lower Courts

Original Article by Diana Friedman for Chron.com

The Texas Supreme Court last year approved do-it-yourself divorce forms, and now they are discovering they have to teach people the legal system. This is causing a greater burden on lower courts, slowing down the system.

A recent incident in a Houston civil court serves as a glaring example of the danger faced by indigent Texans when they attempt a DIY divorce.

The judge thought there was something familiar about the woman representing herself to prove up her divorce. The judge remembered her from a Child Protective Services case, and that she had children, but the woman checked a box on the form indicating no kids.

“Yes, I have three children,” responded the woman. “But the form says how many children are involved, and I’ve been careful not to involve any of them in this divorce.”

Only the judge’s good memory kept the woman from a mistake that might have required her to come back to court to assure her child-custody rights. The judge in this case had to stop proceedings to explain the problem and set the record straight. In many urban areas, the courts have nearly ground to a halt under the pressure of nonlawyers trying to handle their own cases. Explaining the legal system to pro se litigants inevitably falls on judges and their clerks. And it slows the civil system down for everyone.

Advocates of forms say divorce lawyers are proposed simply because they don’t want to cut off a potential business source, but family lawyers know that Texans need lawyers, and not just forms. There is too much information and fine print that can cause a tremendous amount of problems, if simply overlooked or not considered, when filling out a form. Divorce is a difficult time for any person involved, and trying to have everyone just fill out a form and call it done, can be dangerous.

Diana Friedman, a Dallas divorce attorney and chair of the Family Law Section of the State Bar of Texas, has an alternative solution:

Our solution is a project called Family Law Cares, which is working to provide pro bono legal services to that indigent population.

We are working to organize Texas attorneys in a systematic fashion, using effective communication techniques and technology, to enhance our pro bono initiatives. Most family lawyers handle some divorce cases pro bono. Our goal is to have the family lawyers train as many attorneys as possible from other practice areas to handle rudimentary family cases. We will also include the thousands of law school graduates who need courtroom experience to help them get a job, as well as family law clinics in most of the state’s law schools.

Who Gets the Dependency Exemption for Divorced Parents?

Written by redheadedlaw on February 8, 2013. Posted in Child Custody, Divorce, Taxes. No Comments on Who Gets the Dependency Exemption for Divorced Parents?

First, it is important to understand that a judge in Texas deciding divorce issues is a state court judge. A claim for the dependency exemption for a child for federal income tax purposes is a federal issue. Federal trumps state, so the divorce judge cannot decide who gets the dependency exemption. The parents, however, can reach an agreement which is incorporated into the final decree of divorce or post-divorce. In certain circumstances, this can be binding on the parents. It is important, then, to be aware of IRS rules regarding dependency exemptions during and after a divorce.

The general IRS rule for deciding which parent is entitled to the exemption of a child of divorced parents is that the parent having custody for the greater part of the year (“custodial” parent) is the one entitled to the exemption. If the child resides with both parents an equal number of nights, the rule then becomes the parent with the highest adjusted gross income is treated as the custodial parent. The parent entitled to the dependency exemption under these rules can release the claim for the exemption to the noncustodial parent by signing an unconditional written declaration releasing the exemption to the noncustodial parent. IRS Form 8332 is the form used for this purpose. Other “written declarations” could conceivably meet the statutory requirements, but the safest way to insure that the exemption is released to the noncustodial parent is to use this form. It has been specifically held that divorce decrees and separation agreements do not meet the requirements. For pending divorces, IRS Form 8332 should be attached as an exhibit to the divorce decree as an example of the written declaration, and the custodial parent should sign an original of the form at the same time he or she signs the divorce decree.

Can the release be revoked? The answer is yes, but written notice must first be provided to the parent currently holding the release. The revocation of the release does not become effective until the year after attempts are made to provide it to the noncustodial parent.

For more information or questions, a tax professional should be contacted.